How To Ask Something Nicely?
How To Ask Something Nicely: It is very common for us to ask Something from our friend’s colleagues and family but many times we don’t get yes as an answer, many times we fail to get a positive response for the favors which we have asked for, many times we asked for something but didn’t get it, What does it take to ask for what you want and then get it? We ask but do we ask nicely, politely properly.
Most of the people feel that asking for something isn’t a big deal. We don’t need any master degree for asking something to someone, we just need to go and tell them what we want. If you have a belief that asking for something isn’t a very big deal or its very simple then such beliefs of yours are just a myth. Because asking something from someone requires skill.
Asking is an art which needs to be completed politely and nicely. People who ask for favors and get yes as a response knows the art of great ask. They know that when we ask something we need to be very polite. We need to be good with our words, we need to choose our words very carefully, because our chosen words and our confidence will get us, yes, You need to ask something to someone very nicely in order to get yes as an answer.
Asking is not limited to favors but asking skill is used in many businesses, asking skill is done by the salesperson, Have you ever noticed why salespeople talk so politely because they know that if they want to excel in their field they need to ask very nicely and politely, You will get what you want only when you ask for it and only when you ask for it nicely and politely. Many times we want something and we ask something else, instead of specifying what exactly we want, we start thinking whether person will say yes or no, will person revert nicely for our favor, and because of such assumptions we fail to ask nicely, we fail to send a proper message to the opposite person.
How To Ask Something Nicely:
In order to learn an art of asking, we must first ASK, Only then we can learn because always remember that if you don’t ask then the answer will always be NO. Hence the very first steps towards a great ask is “ASK.”
2) Is it Polite and Nice?
The second step towards a great ask is you must see how you frame your question or favor, Is it polite, is it nice, is it proper or does it sound rude, does it sound like an order instead of a request, many times people frame a question or their request in a wrong way and that wrong way becomes the reason for not getting what you hope for example many times people use “GIVE ME” in order to ask something, “Give Me” is a very informal word especially in an art of great ask, it is often mistaken as rude, hence always remember to use proper words and phrase in order to ask someone for something , you need to ask nicely and politely.
3) Watch your Tone
The third step towards a great ask is to watch your tone, many times we frame a question or words properly but still we don’t get a positive feedback, it happens because we frame properly but we say it in a wrong way, we must not only be polite and nice with our words and phrases but with our voice and tone as well, we should sound humble, polite and soft, we can’t ask something with a loud voice and with an irritating tone, we must be very polite and sweet with our voice and tone, hence to ask for something we must have nice and polite tone.
4) Work on your Body Language
The Fourth step towards a great ask is Your Expression, many times our words and tone are proper but still, we fail to get a positive outcome, it happens because our body language share a different story to the opposite person, instead of looking humble sweet and polite, we look rude, we look as if we are doing some kind of favor to the opposite person, While asking for something you should have a smile on your face and your body language should be calm and composed, you should look confident but should never look over confident, because confidence give you what you want but overconfidence always sinks the ship.
5) Use Proper Phrases
The Fifth step toward a great ask is your nice and polite phrase, Ask for something to someone nicely and politely, instead of using wrong and rude phrases, use nice and polite phrases such as :
Use “Could I HAVE,” It is one the most polite and nice phrases which you can use for favors such as Could I have your complete address
Use “I’D LIKE,” It is also a very nice and polite phrase and it suits in every situation such as I’D LIKE TO HAVE A MANGO JUICE.
Use “WOULD YOU DO ME A FAVOR.” This is often used and you must use it when you are asking for a special request or favor.
Other phrases for asking something to someone nicely are “DO YOU MIND,” WOULD YOU MIND, COULD I, WOULD IT BE OK IF, WOULD IT BE POSSIBLE, WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO, etc.
6) Opinion should be asked nicely
When you ask for others opinion, and you want to know whether they agree with your idea or thinking, because you really value the other person’s opinion, at that time your great asking phrase should be like:
WOULD I BE ABLE TO COMPLETE THIS TASK BY MONDAY? BECAUSE I WILL BE OUT OF TOWN ON TUESDAY,
When you use would I be to… This phrase will show respect to the other person and they will feel that yes their opinion has value for you, because many times we ask for opinion but fail to present our phrase properly which sends a wrong message to the opposite person and that wrong presentation don’t allow them to give you proper advice or suggestion, hence always ask for opinion nicely by using proper respected phrase.
7) Yes or No depends on your proper asking
When you ask something and you want the opposite person to say yes or no to your question then you must phrase a question like:
I believe I will try to finish this task by Monday, okay?
I believe I will have more time tomorrow to do this work and also do other tasks, okay?
For such phrase, the opposite person will either say yes or no with a proper reasoning.
This is the end of “How To Ask Something Nicely”. Hope you guys will like it.