What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary

What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary

Blog Title: What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary
Name: What to Say When You Talk to Your Self
Author: Helmstetter
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Book size: 256 pages


What to Say When You Talk to Your Self
What to Say When You Talk to Your Self summary

Before talking about the “What to say when you talk to yourself Summary” let’s first discuss the book’s author Shad Helmstetter. Dr. Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. is the best-selling author of more than twenty books in the field of personal growth, his best-selling classic books include what to say when you talk to yourself, the power of Neuroplasticity and the 365 days of positive self-talk series, shad books are published in over seventy countries. Shad is the pioneering dean in the field of self-talk.

What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary author says that every person each of us is programmed from birth on, author says that as much as 75 percent and more of our programming may be negative and it is working against us, author has also shared ways to erase and replace past mental programs with healthy, new programs that can be positively life-changing, and this book is considered by many as one of the most important and helpful personal growth books.

What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary contains various chapters and shows various techniques which can reverse your negative programming and can fill your life with new and vital energy, in this book author says to learn to talk to yourself, learn the words-the right words-and use them, make success a permanent way of life with what to say when you talk to yourself.

Let’s begin with What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary:

Chapter 1 What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary:

Looking for a better way


In this book author said that almost every person wants the best life, not almost but everyone wants the best life, everyone wants endless opportunities, the fulfillment of dreams and everyone wants a chance to live each day in a way that brings a lot of happiness and success, some people want at least a successful job and career and a good personal life and some just want reasonable not much financial security.  We expect various things from our lives and we deep inside our heart believes that we people deserve our fair and we have right to attain it,

But in this chapter author has asked a various question and asked us that have we ever wondered that even after expecting so much from life still why things didn’t turn the way we wanted? Why we don’t get things we want and we deserve?  Why we find few people lucky and the majority of people not lucky? Why only a few people are productive and their life is filled with happiness and why majority people life is not the way they expected?  The author says that is it some kind of fate destiny luck, the author asked do we have control of our lives on our hand?  What are the things that hold us back? What is coming between our lives happiness and success? What is the wall that stands in our way?

In this chapter author spoke about his research, the very first study he did is on “human behavior.” In this study author says that it’s something you can get a degree in without ever really figuring out, author says human behavior is something that older people knew much before the younger people, author says that no matter how many college degrees your professors will give you, but some grey haired people would already figure out what human behavior is all about and was all about long before we were taught courses in the subject.

The second study author did was on motivational marketing, in this study author says that he learned what makes people do what they do even when they don’t want to do it,  and when author completed his course at the end he understood that you can really make anyone do what you want them to do by using force,  and force in this free world is nothing but an advertisement. Author has also spoken about academic psychology and says it’s a great field and it deserves respect because a lot of people have lived richer lives because someone who cared took time to listen.

The author says that in his journey and in his own career after understanding and learning mathematics, religion, psychology he has found a concrete solution to all the questions that how any normal an average individual can touch stars and can also keep both their feet on solid ground. How an individual can get success can get more than limits and can still stay on grounds, the author says that if you want to master your own future then you must first learn to manage yourself,  and if you accomplish in managing yourself, then you will for sure master a part of what we call Life.

The author says when he was working for the human mind, he started looking for solutions for answers, he found many but he discovered only one solution.

Chapter 2 What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary:

The answers

Author says that even after reading so many self-help books and even after attending so many seminars why still people fail to get what they want in their lives, author says here problems are not with book or with seminars, because books contain various useful techniques which can really help, but here problem is with human mind, we fail to understand how our brain works,  human brain is an incredibly powerful personal computer control center and each of us have that,  our brain is capable of doing anything for us, anything reasonable that you’d like it to do for you,  But we people should know how to treat out brain, if we treat our brain in a right way and carefully by giving our brain right direction then our brain will for sure do right things, our brain will work for us in a right way.

But if you give your mental computer wrong directions then your brain will go to wrong way and will for sure continue to respond to the negative programming that you and the rest of the world have been giving it without even being aware of it.

Chapter 3 What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary:

What Works and What Doesn’t

The author was in search of something that he sensed was missing from the books and messages and solutions of so many who had come before him and before all of us. It became obvious to the author  that if the final solutions to a better life, more happiness and personal fulfillment had already been discovered, then something vital was missing; something that was so essential, so important to the whole the process of achieving success, that without it, the other solutions would not work, at least not for any length of time.

Why only a few people able to achieve successful life, why we return to our old programming and habits even after trying so hard, why Motivation works only for a few days, why even after trying to stay motivated and optimistic we return to same old we, The Author says  Why Even the very best ideas which we found in bestselling books, even the ones that looked like they would work for certain, would work for a while and then slowly lose their importance in our lives. Exciting ideas, great breakthroughs, and inspirations for the mind which seemed to offer so much became once read books sitting forgotten on a shelf.

The author starts wondering, what the missing ingredient he finally realized that the missing ingredient was somehow connected to our individual programming? In order to learn that answer, and in order to learn what does work, he decided that it would help to first understand what does not work–and why.


The author shares the  Missing Ingredients

1) The first missing ingredient is permanence. All “external” solutions are temporary. Even the best of the ideas work only for a time. Without constant attention and effort, even the most exciting success breakthroughs run their course and eventually end up on our list of “good ideas” and “good intentions.”

2) The second ingredient missing from most of the success literature is a knowledge of the physiological processes of the human brain based on what we now know about actual mind-brain functions. Without an understanding of the actual process by which the

human brain accepts information (programming) and, in turn, responds, directs and controls us, it would be difficult (or impossible) to create any success plan that worked and kept working indefinitely. The brain runs the ship. If you want to make a permanent change of any kind, you’ve got to follow the rules. If you want to make a change and make it stick, you’ve got to do it the way the brain works.

3) The third missing ingredient and the most important of all is a new, word-for-word set of directions, new programming to the subconscious mind (the control center of the brain). That means a specific “programming vocabulary” which is worded in a specific way, that anyone can use at any time, to erase and replace the old negative programming with positive, productive new directions.

Solution by author:

The only solution which includes all of the three missing ingredients is something called Self-Talk. Think for a moment about some of the things you would like to accomplish or achieve in your life-or even those smaller things you would like to change about your life right now. Your objective could be to earn more income, have a better family life, improve your skills, do better in school, do better at work anything at all. Whatever means you choose to make the change, unless you first begin to change your old “programming,” the years of conditioning that keeps you doing it the old way, the likely outcome is that what you want to accomplish will not work–or will not last.

Chapter 4 What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary:

New Discoveries

Shad says that DURING THE LAST few years, neuroscientists have learned that much of what we had suspected about the human brain is true: The brain operates very much like a personal computer. It’s not that simple, of course. For one thing, the brain is many times more powerful, in most respects, then the most powerful computers we have yet created.

Even though the adult human brain weighs only about sixteen hundred grams, about three pounds, and looks more like a lump of gray cauliflower than a desktop computer, the brain functions in some important ways much like the man-made computers which are patterned after it.

In non-technical language, a computer has three basic parts: a “video” screen, a keyboard, and a program disk. The screen is what we use to visually display what we are programming into the computer. The screen also displays the results-the words, numbers, or pictures that we want the computer to store or compute for us. The keyboard, much like a typewriter keyboard, is what we use to type in the directions and information we give to the computer. And the disk (in a personal computer it’s generally called a “floppy disk”) is a small sheet of magnetic recording tape onto which we record the information. Whatever we record or program onto that disk will stay there forever unless someone changes it by erasing the old information and leaving it blank, or by typing in new information. Each of us, along with our brain, has similar parts. In use, the computer’s video screen is comparable to our appearance and our actions-what we “display” to the world around us.

In a human being, the computer keyboard is the same as our five senses. Anything we hear, see, taste, touch, smell or anything we say to ourselves–is “programmed” into our brain through our keyboard:

Our five senses. A personal computer uses a “floppy disk” to record the program and the information which the keyboard feeds to it. In the human computer, the floppy disk is our subconscious mind. Everything we experience is recorded-programmed-into our subconscious minds.

To simplify the complex process of how and why the programming of the human brain affects us as much as it does, Shad ask us to take a quick, imaginary look into the brain’s central control room.

Control Room is the part of the brain where commands are received and where all the orders are handed out-the part of the brain that makes us feel good, work hard, and get things done. Or when not so well directed, it makes us slow down, fears the outcome, and stop dead-still in our tracks,

Now suppose you are standing in front of the control center of the brain, completely covered with literally tens of thousands of light switches, much like the light switches in our homes, one section of switches controls our moods, other section controls our emotions, health etc, Author says that Everything about us-our memory, our judgment, our attitude, our fears, our creativity, logic, and spirit–is controlled by the switches in our mental control room.

When any command is transmitted to the control room, the proper directions are sent to the appropriate panels of switches. Within a fraction of a second, some of those switches are turned off or turned on.

My Thoughts:

Hence it is Really Important for us to Good Right Self-Talk, because your talk will be listened by your brain and your brain will switch off and on your programme, Hence understand It Very deeply “WHETHER YOU SAY YOU CAN OR YOU SAY YOU CAN’T YOU ARE RIGHT.” Always be very careful what you say to yourself because you are listening.

Chapter 9 What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary:

The five-level of self-talk

The author says that wanting to be a positive thinker isn’t enough; we people stay too busy fixing the train to realize that we are on the wrong track; the author says that if you want to manage yourself then the very first step is to change our programming.

Negative self-acceptance

Recognition and need to change

Decision to change

The better you

Universal affirmation

The author says that can use Five level of self-talk can be applied in countless situations:

Daily: the author says that we can change our attitude any moment we like, for example, if you plan to go out but suddenly rain started, then instead of feeling upset about it think something positive and change your mood and attitude about a particular situation

Miscellaneous contexts: This focuses on Problem-solving; getting organized, “selling”, and shifting over-used “carrot or stick” management approaches and more.

Specific issues: here author is talking about specific issues, for example, if you feel that you couldn’t save money? Hence you can think of reframing tight fiancés like you should put some amount of your earning aside every month, every week or year.

Healthy changing:  here to decide to move from stress worry to freedom, here you choose to see the world around you in the bright healthy light you choose to see the world with a lot of optimism and self-assurance.”

This is the end of What to Say When You Talk to Your Self Summary. To understand each chapter and this book in detail do buy this book from the given link, this book contains various chapters and it’s one of the most important and an amazing book related to personal growth, so do buy it from the given links.

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  1. Our mind is our GOD…..
    think good and good will follow
    think evil and evil will follow………Thats alllllll


    1. Outstanding summary. Complete book was portrayed in front of me. Good way for revision. Thank you Seeken.

  2. Not satisfied by this summary.. only telling about issues but no solid solution was mentioned in the summary..

  3. I must appreciate your undertaking to disseminate a wealth of knowledge to as many people as possible for you and I sincerely acknowledge your slight influence on me, but I would also urge you to be more solution-oriented in your posts, which I hope you can do. I very well know that this job is not easy to go through extensive books and summarise with precision all the crucial points thereof. But I would suggest you to review it before finally publishing as it carries the potential to impact your popularity. Long back I read one of your posts and I should be honest to say that it was poorly drafted and it cast a rather bad impression on me. However, you have improved a lot thereafter. This post has hardly any solution against the issues mentioned.

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